The Upside of Being Vulnerable
In our society, we often hide our vulnerabilities and view them as weaknesses. But according to author Deanna deBara, this is a mistake. Pretending that you never make mistakes will only lead to people viewing you as inauthentic and possibly untrustworthy. It will also prevent you from taking risks because you're too afraid to fail.
Additionally, hiding your vulnerabilities makes the people around you feel like they also have to pretend to be perfect, even though they're not. This unrealistic expectation negatively impacts both you and the people around you unnecessary.
Here are some tips that will help you show your vulnerable side more often:
Ask for Help
One way to show vulnerability is to tell people when you have a problem that you don't know how to solve. It's perfectly fine to admit to others when you're not sure what to do. Allow yourself to talk about your situation and ask for help when needed.
Admit When You're Wrong
Being able to admit when you're wrong definitely shows that you're comfortable being vulnerable. So, if you find that you made a mistake, own up to it. Don't try to cover it up or blame others. Taking ownership of a mistake may be difficult but people will respect you for it.
Don't Demand Perfection
Absolutely no one is perfect, so you shouldn't demand perfection from yourself or others. When you strive for perfection in life, it will only cause dissatisfaction because it's unachievable.
If you're not used to showing your vulnerable side around other people, it can be a really tough thing to do in the beginning. So, to make the process a little easier, practice being vulnerable to someone you love and trust first. The more you practice opening up and being real or authentic, the easier it will become.
Work to be open, honest, and authentic with the people around you. Drop the façade and allow them to see the real you -- imperfections and all. Let people in, and you'll be rewarded for it in the long-run.
As Deanna says, vulnerability feels uncomfortable at first, but all it takes is for you to push past it. Then you'll realize that vulnerability opens you up to real and lasting connections.