We develop confidence from our learned experiences -- by being supported, feeling encouraged to try new things, and the positive reinforcement we get when those new experiences turn out well. Sometimes, it only takes a few negative experiences, though, to wear you down, and self-doubt may start to take over.

If you're working to build -- or rebuild -- your confidence, then make a conscious choice to focus on the positive and keep moving forward, regardless of setbacks. These tips can help boost your self-esteem and confidence.


Take an Inventory of Your Achievements

When you're feeling defeated or apprehensive, it's easy to lose sight of all that you've already accomplished. Grab a pen and paper and make a list of all the things you've already achieved, as well as obstacles that you have overcome. Keep this list handy -- posted somewhere you can see it often. 


Reflect on Past Compliments

All too often, we remember criticism. Think instead of compliments that you’ve received in the past from family, friends, and colleagues. Let their praise and encouragement be what sticks with you.


Let Go of Past Mistakes

Don’t harbor regrets about things you wish you’d done differently or hadn’t done. Remember that you have learned from these experiences, even if they were hard lessons. You're a stronger person for having overcome past mistakes. Reflect on the lessons you've learned and move forward.


Focus on Your Talents

Everyone is unique and has their own set of individual talents. Focus on what you do well. Identify your strengths and capitalize on them while also expanding your skill set by trying new things. It might help to work with a professional, such as a Confidant provider, and talk through it.


Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Push yourself out of your comfort zone. Try something new, and don’t forget to ask for support along the way. Look to friends for ideas. Maybe you know someone who goes to a fitness class you've been curious about trying. Going along with them can help you feel more at ease. Plus, you can ask questions beforehand about what to expect, can compare notes after, and potentially have a buddy to keep going back with if it turns out to be something you enjoy.  


Offer Yourself Constructive Advice

Counter your inner critic with positive, constructive advice. Don’t let a negative inner voice put you down. Be good to yourself. Tell yourself that you can do things, rather than telling yourself you can’t. Be an ally and advocate for yourself. 

Building confidence takes time -- and once you've built it, it can take continued effort to maintain it. But it's so worth it to have the self-assurance and face the challenges of each day truly believing in yourself. Our team at Confidant is here to help.