True confidence means being able to take action even if you are uncertain of the outcome. You gain confidence by doing things or taking action. If this seems difficult or overwhelming, remember that studies show that high self-esteem and confidence have many benefits, such as better work performance, interpersonal success, and a happier and healthier lifestyle.

Here are some tips for taking the actions you need to build your self-confidence:

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Take Consistent Action

You can significantly build your confidence by taking action and getting things done. The more tasks you accomplish, the more confident you’ll feel. By working towards your goals, you are increasing your self-esteem and building your confidence. 

Set Mini-Goals

Build confidence gradually with small and easily achievable goals. These mini-goals serve as stepping stones that will help you reach your larger, more difficult to attain goals. Even reaching small goals will feel like an accomplishment that will give you the motivation to continue. 

Cultivate a Morning Routine

A morning routine will provide structure and purpose, which sets the tone for your day. Drink a glass of water first thing. Start the day with some movement. This can be 20 minutes of exercise like yoga, or even just a walk. Beginning your day with movement helps increase concentration and energy levels, too. 

Then, write down a list of tasks, cross them off as they get completed. This way, you don’t get overwhelmed by the daunting day ahead of you and give up. Take these small steps to meet each day with energy and confidence.


We often make mistakes and misunderstand others because we are not listening carefully. Most people are only thinking about what they're going to say next. 

Be an active listener. If you can listen well, you will understand people better, and your communication skills will be improved. Listening carefully can also help you learn new things that can then result in more confidence.  

Be Methodical

The best way to become more methodical is to make to-do lists. Write your list putting priority tasks at the top. A priority task would be something that is urgent or has a deadline. Then, follow through and do each of those tasks in order. 

This sounds simple, but just writing things down helps give you focus and purpose. Make sure you tick them off as you go, as this will give you a great sense of accomplishment.  

Focus on Skill

Make time to work on your existing skills or try to learn new ones. Set aside 15 minutes a day to work on something that can help you progress towards your goals or that you enjoy doing (drawing, writing, sports, etc.).

Write Down Your Goals

Write down the goals that you want to accomplish. These can be both short-term and long-term goals (split these into two lists). Once you've compiled your list of goals, put it somewhere you will see it often. The idea is that seeing your goals regularly will motivate you and remind you of what you are working toward.  

Speak Slowly & Clearly

Work on how you communicate with others. Communication is an essential part of confidence. 

Don’t mumble or let your words tumble out. When you speak clearly and concisely, people will be more inclined to listen, and people won’t interrupt you. When you feel like you are being listened to, you will feel more confident speaking up and expressing yourself.  

Take Responsibility

Don’t blame others for something you did or didn’t do. Speak up about what you want. If someone respects you, they will respect your wishes as well. 

If you did something that you shouldn't have, then take responsibility, learn from it, and move on. Blaming others won’t help you grow as a person.

Learn How to Say "No"

Agreeing to something you don’t want to do can make you feel resentful or self-critical. It will also affect your self-confidence if you feel like you can’t speak up about what you really want. If you need to give a reason for saying no, keep it short and concise.  

Draw on Your Strengths

You may feel confident in certain tasks and lack confidence in others. That is because you have both strengths and weaknesses. Accept this and acknowledge that it is a strength and an accomplishment when you feel confident about something. By becoming aware and playing to your strengths, you will quickly become more confident.

Don't Compete

Comparing yourself to someone can be harmful to your confidence. So, recognize that we are all different, and everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Where you feel confident, someone else might be lacking even if you think they have it all.  

Say "Yes" to New Things

Push yourself out of your comfort zone sometimes. Say "yes" to something you usually wouldn’t agree to do. You will develop confidence by trying a new task and then realize that you have the abilities and skills to do many things. Even if you decide not to continue with that activity, remind yourself that you had the confidence to try it out in the first place.

There are many different actions you can take right now to become a more happy, confident, and secure person.