What can feelings of shame teach me about my lifestyle?
Shame is a emotion that adds to feelings of inadequacy or guilt. You can let these feelings shape your experience and add to the struggle or be the source of your motivation to heal.
What Can Shame Teach You?
Consider viewing feelings of shame for what they are; an indication that you may be living your life outside of your values. This means that being ashamed of your actions or behaviors can teach you plenty about what you value in life. These feelings can guide you in a better direction where you feel more aligned with your personal values.
How Can I Use My Feelings of Shame?
Remember that the behavior you are ashamed of occurred as a coping mechanism to deal with external stressors. How can you make different choices in the future? What might prevent you from making the best choice?
Look for alternative healthy coping mechanisms. What intuitively speaks to you? What activities are in line with your values? You will know you are on the right path if your decisions lead to positive emotions.
If your feelings of shame are persistent there may be something bigger going on. It can be helpful to talk this through with a coach, or even a therapist.