How can I manage my anger better?

Anger isn't always a bad thing, but learning to control it is essential for effective communication. When engaging in non-violent communication (NVC), you can consciously express your anger without attacking the other person. Let's go over some helpful tips for managing your anger. 

Keep Your Composure

Effectively managing anger means you keep yourself from getting carried away. It's never ok to abuse another person, physically or verbally. 

One way to help keep your composure is to practice mindfulness. Take a deep breath and try to understand what's causing the anger. Focus on how to solve the problem instead of lashing out.

Catch Yourself Early in the Process

Learn to identify anger in the beginning stages. Once you recognize these stages, you can catch yourself and address the underlying problems before your anger becomes unmanageable. 

Frustration, annoyance, and discomfort are emotions that tend to build. If you can recognize when you are experiencing these feelings, you may solve the problems before you get angry.

Problem Solving Skills for Anger Management

Some strategies can help you manage your anger more effectively, such as:

• Change your perspective. Try looking at the problem the way someone else might see it. 
• Improve your communication skills. Being a clear communicator can help prevent situations that trigger anger.
• Learn to walk away. There is nothing wrong with walking away to calm down and then coming back to address a problem.
• Make being respectful a priority. If you learn to keep things polite, you'll improve your ability to talk it out instead of giving in to your anger. 
• Practice active listening. Often anger is born out of misunderstanding. Listen carefully to every word, and don't let your mind wander.

By clearly explaining your emotions without judging, you can find a solution that's beneficial for all parties involved without losing your temper.